29.7.10

Coping with Tantrums


He is growing up...

He will show the tantrum every time he become frustrated. When mummy or abah forbids him from something he enjoys, he will scream no! no! along with shaking his head to indicate refusal...


Or if mummy asks him to stop playing and time for bed, he will do the same, mumbling using his own language, cute yet disturbing...


Sometimes, when it turns to horrible situation, he will scratch mummy or abah's faces or bite us...


As parents, we had tried several methods to over come this situation but it only lasts for few times for each method.. He's such a fast learner kid and he knows how to over rule us back. Example, we used to using ignoring way and just let him cried or yelled for something he wanted, now he still crying over something but he will pull our hands and show the things he want. My heart melted every time he pulls my hand and give me his kesian looks...


No matter how terrible his throwing his tantrums, we will ensure not to argue with him or scream back to him. Also, we try not to reward or punish him for that...


And as for now, when it occurs, we will hold him gently and rub his back, comfort him with "i love u" or "u are my good boy" and other words that can help him to calm down...


We also sometimes, let him play for another 5 minutes and act to leave him with "bye bye sayang, we love u" so then he will come to us willingly...


I've read somewhere about, it is not easy being a toddler, rocking wildly between anxious and angry feelings, but it is not easy being a toddler's parent, either, striving to stay on the centre of the emotional see saw and to hold it in equilibrium. But time is on everybody's side....


Well, i will give him his time... 

We all should give our kids their times, they will turn into a reasonable and communicative human being one day......


He is my boy ^_^

Luv,
 

3 comments:

mama_umar_maryam said...

huhu..yup,its not eaasy handling toddler nih..skg ni ade bb plak aku..lglah kene istighfar byk2

Carrie-Ma said...

luahan ikhlas seorang mummy. so sweet. :)
u'll be good mummy to iskandar.

nak order telur itik tak? haha

HaNiE said...

zety,

takpe, banyak pahala tu lagipon abg umar mesti suke tolong jaga adik kan... sweetnya nina, geram tgk...

C.K,

yup, u know me kan.. kenkadang nak gak jd poetic, hahahaha poyo jek...

nak telur itik yg free punye, boleh?? pastu sekor itik for izz jugak...